Free And Simple Ways To Catch A Cheating Spouse

Let's face it, in today's spiraling economic times, it is virtually impossible to hire a private investigator if you suspect your spouse or significant other is cheating on you; unless you are one of the fortunate ones out there with an abundant bank account.

While a private investigator is the most effective way to get solid proof, they are by far the most expensive. Costing an upward of $500 per day for clients, it can quickly add up and will hit your wallet hard. For those with very little money to exhaust, a private detective is simply not an option.

The focus on this article, is to list as many possible free and simple ways you can go about being your own private sleuth. I am a busy mom, so I will edit and add to this list as time enables me.

While snooping is a controversial subject, there are those out there who desperately want to find out the truth which is their own life. I say this because, if you are being cheated on, that is in fact, the truth of your life and you deserve to know that truth.

So, how does one go about unraveling the lies, deception and uncover the truth free, simple, and on your own? After doing a little research, I have found many potential ways to expose a cheater, and I will do my level best to communicate these to you.

SnoopBuddy-Find Out The Truth Through A Friend:

SnoopBuddy is a free to sign up website where you can join and hook up with other members in your area to partner up and dig for the truth for eachother. Once a member, you are free to conduct a search by zip code, distance, gender, age group, and availability. Once you find your Snoop Buddy you will communicate via e-mail and discuss your plans, which will be done privately between the two of you. Snoop Buddy members must follow the appropriate state and federal laws regarding snooping. A message board and chat room are also available on this site.

Using Social Networking Search Engines To Catch A Cheater:

Do you suspect your significant other belongs to social networking sites such as Myspace, Facebook, Hi5 or other sites like these that you have not been informed about? Let's face it, it is common for cheaters to have some sort of social networking site out there. Running some simple searches in the following networking search engines can very well provide you with a wealth of information.

Within The Internet Address Book, simply type in your spouse's first and last name. You can omit the city if need be.

Within Ex.Plode.us , again, run a search for the name. There is also a feature to run a search via interests. To search inividual networks, simply select the advanced search option.

Pipl , Yoname , Social Searches , and Upscoop are all also effective ways to track down accounts.

Oodle.com Can Aide In Nabbing A Cyber-Cheater:

Oodle.com is actually a great way to track down a cheater. Oodle , which is similar to Craig's list can help catch a cheating spouse/partner because it lists & pulls personals ads from hundreds of other sites; giving you the potential opportunity to track it down. Craig's list does not appear to have this capability yet.

If you know the screen name your partner goes by, you can simply run a search in the personals section. It may pull up profiles on places such as matchcity, engage.com, friendster, plenty of fish, casual kiss, connexion and more. It does not appear to pull up profiles on places such as eharmony, Mate1 or other places like that.

If you suspect that you find your spouse listed, your next obvious step would be to set up a fake account and lure him. Make sure to set up an account whereby he/she would feel extremely attracted to the person you are posing as. Once he/she takes the bait, you are now free to carry on with conversation to get to the bottom of what he/she is truly up to. Revelations will be expressed, so please make sure you are emotionally and mentally prepared for this approach.

Google Desktop-Search Your Computer free:

This is a free tool available to conduct searches on your computer. You can search through emails, websites visited, find and launch applications and files with just a few keystrokes and more.

Keep in mind, Google Desktop takes quite a long time to index files; I would highly suggest you to install it as soon as your partner leaves for work in the morning, let it index for a while, check it, then uninstall prior to your partner returning home. However, If they have wiped the hard-drive clean, then this will be useless.

Of course, if your spouse or partner is not computer savvy, and you don't think he or she would even notice the program running on the computer, you can, with caution leave it installed. I would delete the desktop icon , though. Google Desktop

How To Check Temporary Internet Files

To Catch A Cheater:

Begin with the start button at the very bottom left hand side of your screen. Put the arrow on the start button.

Now RIGHT click on the start button: It will open a small tab with a few options.

Now click on the "Explore" button. This will open another window for you with a list on the left hand side of your screen.

Find "LOCAL DISK C " Right click on Local Disk C. This will now open another small window of options.

NOW, click on "Properties"

Next click on the button that says "Disk cleanup" It may take some time to download this depending on the files and storage.

Once another new window opens, find the "temporary internet files" button and select it.

Now click on the bottom of that window which says "view tabs" This will open another new screen with files.

You can now click on each file and go through the contents of them. You might see photos, email files, etc. If a file looks suspicious, you can click on it and view it.

To get the date and time the file was created, simply right click on the file, and go down to properties and click on that.

If you want to know a day and time of a particular file, be sure to perform that FIRST before opening the file itself. If you open the file prior to looking up the date and time it was created, it will report it as the time and date you opened it.

Using Microsoft Internet Explorer

If you have Microsoft Internet Explorer, you can check files an easy way also. At the very top of the screen find and click on the "tools tab". Scroll down and click on "internet options". Now click on "settings". After that is open, you can click on the "view files" or the "view objects" buttons and look around.

Using Mozilla Firefox To Catch A Cheater

If you have Mozilla Firefox, it is easy to find passwords to sites visited. Once logged onto Mozilla Firefox, click on the tools tab at the very top of the page. Now click on OPTIONS. Next Click on the SECURITY tab. Put a check on the "Remember passwords For Sites"

Now, after a cheating spouse surfs the internet, you can simply go back to the security tab and click on the "Show Passwords" tab. It should show passwords and sites visited.

If you do not already have Mozilla Firefox installed on your PC, Please be advised that once it installs, it may "Import" history which was already deleted from the Microsoft Internet Explorer. Make sure you double check the history folder after you install it.

Catch A Cheater Using Gmail Web History

If you happen to know your significant other's gmail password, and you are suspicious about his online cheating~ you can possibly view his/her web history via using google's web history feature. It works, especially if they forget to log out of gmail and continue on with surfing the Internet. It will show all the pages viewed. Please be aware tho, that there is a feature that one can select to delete history. So, if he is savvy, then you might be out of luck with this approach. Just type in the user name and password and viola, you should be able to see some clues: Gmail Web History

Using A Voice Activated Recorder To Catch A Cheater:

You can easily borrow from a friend a voice activated recorder. I would advise you to not borrow from a mutual friend of you and your spouse, so you do not run the risk of them calling and asking for it back; especially if your spouse gets the call! If you exhaust your search with friends with no luck, you can sign up for a Freecycle account in your community and post a wanted ad for one and get one free. If you need to buy one, they are about $50 at places such as Walmart. Once you have the VAR, make sure to set it on silent! Plant it securely in the car of your spouse, somewhere where it won't be found or disturbed or fall out of place. Velcro will work very well with this. Batteries usually only last several hours, but if your spouse is up to no good, you will be able to hear things such as cell phone conversations, or even other people in the car. You can also hide the VAR in any part of the home where phone calls are likely made; and pick up the conversations from there.

Set A Trap
This is easy. Tell your partner you are going out of town for a few days to visit with family or friends. When the cat's away, the mice will play, or so they say. Simply check into a nearby hotel or stay with a friend or relative within close proximity to your home.

In the evening, drive back and park close to your home and watch what happens. If you see that your significant other's car is gone, or that a foreign car is parked in your driveway; you might have a problem of a cheating spouse. If you see your spouse getting into their car and driving off, you could simply follow him/her.

You might want to consider renting a car, so as to not be spotted. wearing a hat or some kind of disguise is also essential to not being spotted. If a friend or relative is willing, use their car in lieu of renting a car to keep the costs down. Bring a camera and take snapshots of any intimate encounters you may witness.

Going Through His/Her Cell Phone

Believe it or not, cheaters are notorious for hiding a lover's phone contact under mutual friends or family members. You may see his Sister, Mother, Father and mutual friends on his contact list and not even bat an eye over it. Here is the heads up:

Take a good look through those cell phone contacts, if you suspect you are being cheated on. Chances are your mate has the number listed somewhere.

Let's say you see his list of his "best friend". Go ahead and open that contact. You may discover that your spouse may have not only the actual number for the best friend, but have also added another (alternative) number under that contact entry which is a foreign number to you.

If you find suspicious phone numbers on the contact list, write them down. If you wish to proceed with investigating the owner of the phone number, you can do a reverse phone number look up.

If it is a published land line number, you may luck out by doing a simple Google search on the number, which should show the owner's name and possibly provide you an address as well. If the number is unpublished, then you will be out of luck with this approach.

If it is a cell phone, then you will likely have to pay a fee to get the owner's name and address, by doing a reverse cell phone look up.

However, I have found a great site which allows you to potentially find out the name (owner) of a suspicious phone number for free by going to TelephoneReport .

This is by far the best reverse phone number look up I have come across, which yields great results. Most other reverse look ups force you to pay for a name.

Once in the telephone report website, Place the number in the search box, then press search.

If you want to conduct another search after the initial search, plug in the new number in the search box and hit the "enter" button on your computer; or you can simply hit the back button.

If all else fails, the best bet to investigate, would be to get a calling card, go to a local payphone and simply dial the number. If you feel brave, come up with some cockamamie pitch to whomever answers and see what kind of information you can get.

You could also simply block your number and dial the number from your own phone by dialing *67 prior to the number; however, I strongly advise you not to do this, as the dialed number will show up on your bill. If your mate tends to evaluate the bill and sees this, he will know you are on to him.

I highly advise not asking the person on the receiving end how he/she knows your partner. You will likely be given nothing but lies anyway with this approach, not to mention a head's up call from this person to your partner would likely follow thereafter.

If you discover this person is fishy, then conducting a paid search to get the name and location of this person might be worth thinking about.

Dialing *69 is an effective way to discover whom the last inbound call was made by. If you do this, I would simply listen to who answers and what they say upon seeing the caller id on their end; then hang up.

If he/she has a cell phone only and not a land line, you will need to press the send button of the cell phone to view the number of the last call made.

Are you noticing text messages, inbound or outgoing calls always being deleted? If so, you definitely have a red flag to pay close attention to.

If cell phone activity is suspicious, you can check the cell phone records online to ascertain the patterns of the calling activity, as well as the viewing the numbers themselves.

Some cell phone companies do not list inbound numbers at all, which can be quite frustrating. A savvy cheater might very well know this and have the lover call him/her in lieu of him/her calling them.

If you see a pattern of constant calling card usage listed on the cell phone records, this is definitely a huge red flag. Again, a savvy cheater will know that calling cards will not show the actual call being placed, but the calling card 1-800 number instead.

Keep A Daily Log Of Your Spouses Car Mileage

Keep a daily log of mileage used on the car your spouse or partner uses. About a month or so of doing this should reveal a whole lot of clues and patterns. You should know the mileage it takes to and from his/her place of work. If the mileage goes way over that or way under; you might have a problem of a cheating spouse. I highly advise you to keep this log well hidden.

Free Cheater Tests

The Cheater Test Offers a free, simple and genius way to anonymously catch a cheater by using email as the trap.

All you need to do is register your email, as well as his/her email.

You have the option to send a generic message, or you can make up your own message on what to say to entice him enough to take the test.

Once you press send, you will be given a verification of the test in your email inbox.

If they take the bait and perform the test, you will receive the results of the test in your email account.

All they will receive on their end will be a short description of the survey results; nothing more; but results also go to you.

VonVan works similarly to the cheater test. If the cheater takes the bait, his/her secret crush will be revealed into your email inbox. All the while, you remain completely anonymous.

The Cheat Checker at Makehimpay.net offers you a free service to test your mate's faithfulness by telephone.

If your mate fails this test, it is audio filed on the site as proof to you.

If for some reason you can't use the text messaging service on their site, you can anonymously text message him by going to 811.com.

Plug in one of the call back numbers from the cheat checker site as the return phone number.

Text a message to him that you are an interested female and request he call back.

Cheat checker will post call backs on their message board, so you can see if he did call back . They even record hang ups.

They do not display the full phone number of calls returned, just partial numbers; with which you can indentify as his.

Use A Lint Brush To Gain Clues

As Silly as this sounds, this is actually ingenious, cheap and smart. Go to your local dollar store and purchase a lint brush (the sticky kind). With the lint brush, you now simply run it through the interior of your partner's car. This will pick up stray hairs that the naked eye may not spot. If the hairs do not belong to you, your spouse, your children and you know your partner does not carpool, you may have a lead here.

Journal Everything

As tedious as this may sound, if you have the gut feeling that you are being cheated on, I strongly recommend you to get yourself a journal. Be it a diary, spiral notebook or even a small notepad, start jotting down everything.

Everything you ask? Yes, indeed everything! It does not matter how minuscule the infraction or how exorbitant the incident. Writing and journaling will give you a time-stamped opportunity to fall back on, so you can review the patterns that will eventually unfold. Relying on mere memory will not work, which is why I highly suggest this approach.

So, he stormed off Monday night, to go take a drive to think; all over a senseless fight that he instigated and did not return for two hours. Write that down.

So, she comes home late three times this week with implausible, mind boggling excuses. Write it down.

So, he/she is moody and sullen clear out of the clear blue sky, even though you had a great day together. Write it down.

I am talking everything that gives you the feeling that something is just not right; Things that cause you to feel off, things that send red flags to you.

Make sure you keep the journal well hidden. You do not want to take the risk of your spouse finding it.